God’s gift . . .

Faith Over Frustrations: Healing Emotional Wounds 

Sometimes what the Lord puts on my heart to write about praying seems to be more to myself than to others . . . then I remember, if I am experiencing frustrations and struggling with prayer, I am not alone . . . we are human and never perfect,
life is “life,” and I know I need God’s help to get over myself, to get through today, and to move forward . . . I once asked the Lord why He wanted me to help others with prayer—"God, I am not very good at this” . . . He told me that’s why—humbling me for sure—He wanted someone willing to help, even though they’re not perfect—so that He could give me the words to share . . . He wanted an encourager, and that’s what I try to be—and sometimes that means lecturing more to myself and attempting to encourage others . . . it also reminds me that we cannot “do” life alone . . . we need God. 

We all suffer emotional wounds, all get frustrated with God and His timing, and experience disappointments—with others and even with ourselves . . . but God is there with us every step of the way . . . He cares deeply about the hopes or the longings we have, no matter how small  . . . But God doesn’t promise us every expectation or want that we have here on this earth will be fulfilled the way we see fit . . . Things are going to happen in our lives that will lead to disappointment, disillusion, and hurt. 

I don’t know about you, but I can think of things that feel unfair, wrong, hurtful, or are an unmet hope or expectation . . . our disappointments and wounds may be different, but we can find common ground in that we tend to put emotional Band-Aids on those unmet hopes and expectations, and try to hide them from sight . . . peeling off those Band-Aids is painful, and still the emotional wounds don’t fade away . . . We think we are “good,” we’ve moved on, and then the hurts begin to show up and resurface when we least expect it . . . unexpected tears that seem to appear out of nowhere, the lack of desire to pray, fears about seeing a certain person, or walking into an unknown situation . . . and frustrations when someone else complains about something they have, that we had desired or hoped for and didn’t get . . . Disappointments, broken relationships, unmet career goals, circumstances, and in some cases just the way things played out. 

Then there is this . . . we keep rerunning and replaying these disappointing events like a film reel in the mind . . . questioning and wondering things like, If I had taken this certain step, would the outcome have changed? . . .  If I had made that specific move, would it have prevented this unwanted reality? . . . If I had spoken up about this or that, would anything be different today?

Lost, unmet hopes or hurts from the past . . . and we struggle to let go, keep going over it again and again, and berate ourselves for what wasn’t or should have been . . . The first step to healing these emotional wounds is to accept that it is what is—recognize that the past is in the past—we can’t change it . . . That part can be really difficult, so the second step is to ask God to help us stop looking back and instead look ahead with a holy expectation . . . and we will undoubtedly need to have that conversation with God again and again. 

God probably isn’t going to rewrite our past,
but He promises He already has an amazing future for us that will be fulfilled.
(Nicki Koziarz)

Ask God to help you let go of the unmet hopes of yesterday; to help stop them from holding your thoughts captive
. . . so you can look forward to the hopes still to come.

INSIGHT . . .

I believe with all my heart that God heals—and that includes emotional wounds and hurts . . . but He doesn’t always do it on the timeline we would choose, or the way we would choose  . . . it can feel confusing, even discouraging at times . . . Yet Scripture shows us repeatedly that we are not alone in those emotions . . . we’re encouraged to keep trusting God as healing unfolds—unfolds—healing takes time as you mend and recover.

It can be a challenge to trust God while emotional, mental, or spiritual restoration takes longer than we hope—we do tend to be an “I want it now” kind of society . . . We keep asking God to ease the anxiety, mend the grief, repair the broken relationship, lift the depression, quiet the shame, as we worship through tears, yet the ache lingers.

REALIZE—God is not absent in your waiting;
He is often doing His deepest work there.

Healing can feel like a marathon, but slow healing is not the same as the absence of healing.

RECOGNIZE—Just because healing feels slow doesn’t mean God is saying no—
it may mean He is working deeper than you can see.

We live in a world of instant results . . . Prescriptions promise quick relief . . . social media offers overnight transformations . . . even spiritual testimonies will highlight sudden breakthroughs—without the whole story . . . So, when our healing unfolds inch by inch, it’s easy to think something is wrong with God or with us . . . but growth and restoration take time.

Healing—especially emotional and mental healing—is layered . . . it has taken time to get to where you are currently—trauma rewires; grief reshapes; habits formed over years rarely dissolve overnight . . . to recover and “heal” is going to take time too . . . it is a process.

In Mark 8:22-25, Jesus acknowledged the process as He heals a blind man in stages . . . First, the man sees partially—“people like trees walking” . . . Then clarity comes . . . “Once more Jesus put his hands on the man’s eyes. Then his eyes were opened, his sight was restored, and he saw everything clearly.”

Jesus could heal instantly, yet He does it in stages . . . to show us that partial restoration is still restoration . . . working through “the process” is not failure . . . it’s work in progress.

APPRECIATE—Faith is not proven in quick answers,
but in the quiet decision to keep trusting God one more day.

God’s greatest promise is not immediate relief—it’s His presence with each of us.

“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you.”
Isaiah 43:2

UNDERSTAND—God’s presence will sustain you in ways
immediate answers never could.

The marvel in many seasons of slow healing is not that the storm stops—it’s that you are not alone in it . . . It’s okay to admit that waiting is exhausting . . . Even faithful people grow weary . . . If your healing feels slower than you expected, you’re not failing . . . You are becoming . . . God is not impatient with your process . . . He sees every tear, every prayer, every small act of courage . . . And even when healing feels slow, God is still with you.

REMEMBER—God is not grading your recovery speed.
He is walking with you through it.

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him.”
Romans 15:13

It is crucial to quit trying to control what is not in your power to change . . . Trust in God is an integral facet in the process of growth and transformation  . . . Each obstacle we overcome makes us more resilient and capable of handling future challenges
. . . And as we navigate through the darkness, we can find comfort and reassurance in the knowing that we’re not alone.

No matter what, there is always hope . . . it’s the one thing that can never be taken away . . . Embrace it and let it guide you towards healing and peace . . . the journey may be difficult, but it’s not a waste of time or effort . . . It is important to remember that suffering is not a sign of weakness, but a part of human experience . . . It’s in the darkest moments that we have the opportunity to grow and strengthen our faith . . . it is crucial to have faith in God and His plan for our lives when we face challenges . . . Let go of what you can’t change and trust in His ultimate plan for you . . . Remember that healing takes time but have faith that brighter days are ahead.

INVITATION—TO TALK WITH GOD . . .

Billy Graham viewed prayer as “the foundational life and breath of Christian living” and our greatest privilege in the opportunity to have a living, breathing relationship with our Lord . . . He emphasized that true prayer is a "way of life, not just for use in emergencies". 

Graham famously noted, "Whether prayer changes our situation or not, one thing is certain: Prayer will change us!"

He taught that prayers have no boundaries and can leap miles and continents, "translated instantly into any language".

Billy Graham believed in starting every day with God, calling morning prayer "the key that opens to us the treasures of God's mercies," and he advised that “rather than only bringing a list of requests, prayers should be grounded in praising God and thanking Him for His love and blessings.” 

Prayer is simply talking to God . . . and God wants you to talk to Him!  . . . He loves you and He hears you when you pray.

Ask God to help you today . . . with whatever He sees that needs to change in your heart.  

Prayer, talking with God, is possible because Jesus Christ removed the barrier between us and God by His death on the cross . . . Christ paid the penalty for our sins and removed the barrier, so we can confidently come into God’s presence when we commit our lives to Christ.

Whether we’re praying out loud or praying silently in our hearts and minds, God hears our prayers . . . He already knows all about us and knows what is going on inside us—both good and bad . . . but He desires communication with us.

Who is the Lord placing on your heart today that needs your attention and extra prayers?

Because of the Holy Spirit, God even hears our prayers when we can’t put them into words . . . and even if God doesn’t seem to answer your prayers at first, don’t stop praying . . . God loves you, and no prayer goes unanswered . . . just realize that sometimes God is actually answering our prayers when we don’t recognize it, because His answer may be “No” or “Wait”  . . . Trust Him—we think we know what’s best for us, but God sees the whole picture.

Remember, we have the privilege of coming to God only because Jesus Christ died for our sins . . .

Have you given your life to Him?  . . . If not, let your conversation today be one of  
                      confession and faith, asking Him to come into your life as your Lord and Savior.

‍ILLUMINATION . . .

When you’re tense, struggling, afraid, waiting . . . do you ever find yourself holding your breath . . . almost forgetting to breathe at all? . . . I want to remind you—breathing is critical for life . . .  It is also critical for your mind, body, heart and soul.

We seldom manage to experience a complete day of peace . . . traffic, racing the clock,  voices coming at you from all directions, demands, expectations, chaos and crises . . . Just a little calm, a few moments of peace, even the tiniest moment of tranquility from time to time would be a blessing.

That is easier said than done . . . so I want to encourage you to breathe—yes, the body does this naturally . . . but I want you to consciously breathe as you pray.

Breath prayers, simple words that can often soothe our tumbled, jumbled souls . . . short, rhythmic prayers that can be whispered with a single inhale and exhale, and focus on slow, deep breathing combined with a centering thought . . . You don’t need large blocks of time or a quiet space to do it . . . You can tailor the words to exactly what your heart needs in any given moment . . . and the gentle prayers help lower stress and anxiety . . . Here are some examples  . . .

For Peace and Comfort

(Inhale) "God is my refuge and strength" | (Exhale)  "Always found in times of trouble."

(Inhale) "The Lord is my Shepherd" | (Exhale)  "I shall not want."

(Inhale) "Peace is a promise" | (Exhale) "He keeps."

(Inhale) Breathe in peace; | (Exhale) Breathe out fear.

For Surrender and Trust

(Inhale) "Speak, Lord" | (Exhale)  "I am listening."

(Inhale) "When I am afraid" | (Exhale)  "I put my trust in You."

(Inhale) God is my strength; | (Exhale) I let go of worry.

For Healing and Forgiveness

(Inhale) "Lord Jesus Christ" | (Exhale)  "Have mercy on me."

(Inhale) "God's peace" | (Exhale)  "Guard my heart."

(Inhale) "Create in me a clean heart" | (Exhale)  "Renew a right spirit within me."

Short ~ Sweet ~ Simple.  . . . pray them conscientiously and thoughtfully . . . the words can be just what your hectic and stressed life needs . . . and don’t forget to breathe.

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INSPIRATION—PRAYING THROUGH MUSIC . . .

Words make us think a thought. Music makes us feel a feeling.
A song makes us feel a thought.
(Christian Bovee)

I encourage you to take time to listen to any or all the songs below . . . there is no right or wrong style of music—it is what speaks to you . . . listen to the melody and the lyrics and feel the response of your heart to what God wants you to hear . . . and I do understand that music doesn’t speak to everyone . . . and that is okay too.

♪♬♪ Current . . .  There's Nothing That Our God Can't Do

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AujNeQgc0ng&list=RDAujNeQgc0ng&start_radio=1

♪♬♪ Praise & Worship . . . Kindness

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SidOp4dmj6k&list=RDSidOp4dmj6k&start_radio=1

♪♬♪ Traditional . . . There is None Like You

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MCfnlBoh2Gg&list=RDMCfnlBoh2Gg&start_radio=1

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INTO EACH DAY AHEAD . . .

A prayer takes seconds to utter, but it can profoundly affect your mood, behavior, and ability to overcome life's challenges, including anxiety, stress, sleep problems, and more . . . A simple prayer can change us; can lead us on the path to healing ourselves and our world . . . So, pray . . . Pray for peace, pray for healing, pray for strength, pray for courage, pray for resolve, pray for others, pray for yourself . . . Pray to God with all your heart and soul . . . As we talk to God, we receive the encouragement to live, and to live up to the potential inside us.

God is listening . . . God is neither distant nor deaf . . . We’re not alone . . . God is present in our lives and prayer provides a sense of being connected, of being part of something larger than ourselves . . . praise God!

Heavenly Father,
We come before You with hearts full of faith and trust in Your power to heal.
Lord, You are the Great Physician,
and we believe in Your ability to restore health and bring comfort in times of distress.
Touch each of us with Your healing hand, renew our strength,
and help us trust in Your plan for our lives.
Thank You, Lord, for hearing our prayers and for being our ever-present help in times of need.
We give You all the praise and glory, trusting in Your unfailing love and mercy.
In Jesus’s name, Amen.‍ ‍

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